Mom Vs. Dad

Why is it that when Mom goes to the store to pick something up really quick, like a gallon of milk, soda, bread, whatever it is, before heading out the door she will always say "Honey, can you watch the kids while I run to the store?" But, when Dad runs to the store- he doesn't ask us, the Moms, to watch the kids. Why is that? Why do we as the Moms feel the need to ask the Dads to watch their OWN kids for a minute? It's so ridiculous. It's bad enough that we can't piss, shit or shower alone but now we're asking you to babysit your own child/children while we run out for just a couple minutes? Un-freakin-believable. And then, on top of that, I learn that it's now OK for the Dad to go out with friends after work, because he's the one working and paying the bills, he needs a time-out with his friends. I completely agree. But when is it our turn? I know I would certainly love some free time away from the kids. Who's game? Where do I sign up? Seriously. Let's do this! If Dad can go out and play, why can't Mom? Oh, wait, that's right. Because she always has a child up her ass. Literally. No wonder we are always being called a "bitch" I would be willing to put the whole paycheck that I don't receive for babysitting our kids on the fact that you would be called a "bitch" if you had a kid stuck up your rear-end all day and night too. I'm just sayin'. 

Girlfriend, Girlfriend!

Are you my friend? Am I your friend? What does being someones friend mean? Being someones friend is a big deal because that means they trust you enough to really let you in so that you can see who they truely are. I believe everyone has atleast one best friend. That one person that you can truely be yourself around and not feel like your every move is being studied or judged. Some people are lucky enough to have multiple best friends. My best friend Jessica and I have been friends for 20 years. That's a long freaking time! I couldn't imagine her not being a part of my life though. But what happens when your best friend starts letting you down? That's the ugly part of friendship that no one wants to talk about. I lost one of my best friends because of a choice that I made, and I kinda sorta ended another friendship recently with someone who had been my friend for over 20 years, but that wasn't because of something I did, it was something she did. Without getting into the details, my point is that sometimes things happen and you loose your friend, or your best friend. What then? Does life go on? Duh! Of course it does! But what happens when you don't loose your friend they just keep letting you down over and over and you aren't sure what you should do? Well, in my opinion, if your best friend is constantly letting you down, hurting your feelings, or whatever it may be, I think it is best to talk about it with this friend. I mean, you are friends right? So this should be like one of the most simpliest  things to do. "You know, Jane, it really hurts me that everytime we make plans to get together and do something, you cancel on me at the last minute with some bullshit excuse." See? That wasn't so hard, was it? But what if you don't want to have this little "talk" with your bestie? You would prefer to sit there with your mouth shut and act like everything is all peachy keen when really you are hurting on the inside. Whatever.  To each his (or her) own, I always say. You think it's ok to sit quietly because you don't want this friend to start hanging out with you again out of pity, which is a possibility I suppose. So it's kind of a tough call I guess. But I think that if you are truely friends with someone that you should be able to talk to them about everything, good or bad. Some friendships are worth "fighting" for. 

(And for the record, I don't have a friend by the name of Jane, incase you were wondering. And no, Jessica hasn't pissed me off, lol)

Pucker up Buttercup

One sure fire way to piss off a stay at home mother is to act like her "job" isn't important and what she does doesn't matter because she doesn't bring home a paycheck. Seriously? Being a stay at home mom is not a walk in the park, sure you don't really have to get dressed if you don't want to and you don't have to report to an office or punch a timecard. But that doesn't give someone the right to belittle someone because they don't get paid for their services.

Lets see, for me, a typical day starts at 6:00am and ends usually around 10:00pm. In between there, I'm getting kids up and ready for school, taking them to school and then coming home to clean house and take care of the toddler who isn't in school. Then, it's lunchtime and naptime. After that, we're off to the school to pick up one daughter, then not even an hour later we're off again to pick up the other one. Then we have homework, dinnertime and bathtime. Then there's alittle bit of time to relax and settle down for the night before doing it all over again the very next day. And the day after that. And the day after that. And lets not forget to figure in trips to the store and errands that need to be taken care of, because, lets face it - Mom is the only one who can and will do it. Also, there is "the list" of things to do or things that need to be done that is always in the back of my mind, you know the one telling you not to forget the milk again at the store, wondering if you forgot to pay a certain bill, what's for dinner?, what's for breakfast?, Hell, anything for lunch? It's a never-ending list of reminders. And it never goes away. I carry so much weight on me everyday all day, that it's amazing I can stand up, which I do ALL DAY LONG typically because if I sit down someone is going to ask me to get up and do something or get something or something period AND if they don't and I actually get to sit there - it just feels so... wrong. Like I should be doing something else, anything else, besides sitting down. 

So I think you can get my point. Maybe. Maybe not. But until you have ever been a "stay at home mom" you can't really judge me or anyone else who is. I remember when I was little all I wanted to do was be a mom and stay home with my kids while Dad did the work and paid the bills. I don't regret my decision and neither should you. And for all those nay sayers out there, pucker up and kiss it.

Busy Bee

  So I took the kids to the Kids Workshop at Home Depot this morning. They love it, they always have such a great time! They love being able to build stuff! This month they made planters and gave each of the kids a veggie plant to accompany it. 

Brooke and Myles

Myles

Brooke

But of course my darling little ones wanted flowers instead so we ended up buying a few cheap ones. Then, after getting home we realize the plants we have are too big for the planters that they made, so instead we (and by "we" I mean "I") planted them along side the sunflowers. And it looks great! I'm so proud of myself! I have never been one for gardening but it seems the older I get the more I want to do it. But I just suck so badly at it even though I try so damn hard! Stupid Black Thumb!

The Garden

Also, while at Home Depot, I bought a very pretty pink Orchid for inside the house. I've always wanted one but they are expensive and since I have a bad habit of killing everything I had never bought one. But today is different. I talked with one of the store associates in the garden department and he assured me that they are simple and easy to take care. So I have the beautiful and expensive Orchid sitting as the center piece to our kitchen table.

My Orchid

So here's to a fun filled Saturday morning! 

I hope yours has been as great as ours!

And here's to hoping the plants don't die!!!!

Cheers to my Mom!

So with Mother's Day quickly approaching I find it compelling to write about my mom, Debra. Growing up as the only child of a hard-working single mother was no joke. She worked so hard for everything we had. She did what she needed to do and she always put me first. I was so lucky, so blessed, to have her as my mother. Now that I've grown, and have kids of my own, I can truly appreciate all that she has done for me as a child and even as an adult. She is strong, independent and most importantly a survivor. In more ways than one. She has overcome a lot of health issues and even breast cancer, but she has never let life get her down - she's too strong-minded for that! I love her so much, she is my best friend. 

Here we are together at "The Big Pink Ribbon" event last October.

This was for the "Put Your Pink Bra On" walk last October.

I love you, Mom!

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Take that Black Thumb!

In general, I suck at growing anything beautiful in a garden. I try, really hard, but somehow for some unknown reason - Everything ends up dead. It's really quite sad. However, my mom gave us some sunflower seeds and what do you think happened to those poor defensless seeds? They grew! Hell yeah! And they are still growing! One of them has what appears to be the makings of a beautiful flower on it! It's so exciting!

 So I say, "Take that Black Thumb!"

 Here's a pic so you can see how tall they have gotten.

And one so you can see the magic that is taking place!

The kids have been so great at helping to make sure we water the plants everyday. Brooke is especially excited to see one starting to bloom. And everyday after school she reminds me that the flowers are as tall as bean stalks! God she is too cute!

Get off me!

Why is it that the very second you sit down to do something, i.e this blog, the kids need you for this, or need you for that. OR they want to climb all over you, like my son Myles is. It's so aggravating! I swear it's as if the kids don't even know Dad exists at times. He's right there! Go ask him! Sheesh! Get off me!!!!!! It drives me bonkers! Don't get me wrong I love all three of my amazingly gorgeous children but when mama is trying to do something or talking on the phone, leave me the hell alone and/or ask dad. It's really quite simple but yet they make it seem as if it's impossible. 

Here is a recent picture of my livelihood. 

I told you my kids were amazingly gorgeous! And Dad isn't too bad either! ;)

Now that I've had a bit of a rant, I should probably warn you that this new blog of mine might see a lot of that. Not too much though, can't have the whole Internet knowing that I'm a crazy bish. Or can I?




Pardon my ADD but I feel the need to change the subject.
I started this blogger page yesterday after talking with a good friend of mine who gave me the push to do so. After some time and lots of scavenging on the web I started this one. With all the millions of people who have blogs and do it regularly, I feel like a really small fish in a big fucking ocean! Some blogs focus mainly on one subject while others have lots of topics. I'm not sure which is best for me, I do have a lot of interests, some of which I don't think I know enough about to really "blog" about it. The ONE thing that I know I'm good at is being a Mom. The Mom. That is my job and I do it well. But I don't want to limit myself to just a female audience. So I find myself conflicted. It will be interesting though to see how this all comes about. My page will be a work in progress for the next couple of days I'm sure. 


OK, so I think I am done for now. I hope you liked what you read. Feel free to comment, and make sure to follow me on twitter here: https://twitter.com/#!/iamshellfish


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Checking things out

Just thought I would attempt to start a blog. We shall see where this goes. This make take some time.